Having watched the numbers of bottles making their way to the Recycling bin at the end of our garden, having noted over several years that the reason these bottles are empty are that the contents have somehow gone gurgling down the throats of the inhabitants and having taken careful note of how much and how often the said contents were disappearing down my throat and the nature of the habit, I concluded that unless I took action now, I might end up as an old Granny tottering towards a rather unattractive wine flavoured end.
The first thing seems to be looking at your habits without flinching. The second, deciding which habits are helpful and what is your goal. So, what is the goal? The goal turns out to be to get free of the attachment I have to the things of this life without giving up on life. This doesn’t mean locking myself away but it means finding time being alone and reflecting isn’t put on one side in favour of action all day and alcohol every evening.
Three weeks in and still having to override the desire to open a bottle of wine rather than not, I am making my way towards the next goal of 6 weeks, then 12, then not obsessing about how many days I have drunk water instead of wine. The two helps have been these, first a start with a sort of electric acupuncture which somehow put a marker in the sand as well as maybe helping the habit diminish, the second, on a recommendation from the acupuncturist, joining an online group called Soberistas. I didn’t try this immediately, but then one evening, having done the crossword, the ironing and all the other jobs, I googled them. It turns out that they are an international group of people, almost all of whom have detected the same habit themselves and who need help in the form of company to keep going. Their stories of the drift into too regular drinking are so similar even though their lives, our lives, may be quite different. Their stories shine with non criticism, support for one another, honesty and courage and I have to say that I now have a whole new raft of friends (or friends on the same raft) paddling along together.
If anyone reading this feels that they want to find out more, go to https://soberistas.com.
Apart from this, Grandpa is in the lead position for meditation but is keeping the meditation seat warm for me.